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Think Maui Before You Arrive

As I began to write this I want to first say it takes a lot of courage to face some of the life’s experiences that can potentially hurt you and leave you stranded with no future dreams and that dreaded feeling of moving forward with what most would call normal but I refer to as an average lifestyle. I’m on flight aa432 flying into Maui and I’ll touch down by 3 PM this afternoon. That leaves enough time for me to pick up my car rental, a special vehicle is what my itinerary from Alamo car rental says. You have a choice to pick any car I’m assuming from a compact vehicle to a full-size vehicle.

Kind of a stretch huh? Yeah, I know, so with my luck, I’ll be straggling my feet like Fred in the Flintstones while my friend sits comfortably in a tiny compact no longer than my 6’3 stature, cause she’s small but complaining how I’m whipping around these Maui twisted cliffs in this compact minute structure so dangerously, speedily down Hana highway. Basically, she’s vigorously scared! Before I go any further I want to tell you to never ever give up on your life.

You were born to have an amazing life experience so you can tell your stories to your grandchildren and customers throughout your day. Each phase, level or stage you go through in your lives please learn from them, study them to recreate them to be even better as the years turn into beautiful aging. For instance, right now all I can think about is banana bread banana bread banana bread.

I know you’re wondering why? Well here’s why. Maui has this small hole in a wall banana bread spot called Julie’s banana bread that’s too off the charts to be called the best and rather just call it my favorite. So why banana bread and what does it have to do with recreating? Well, the first time I had it was 2 years ago as a non-Hawaiian experiencer.

I return today with enough experience under the belt to make this visit to Julie’s even better and I must. Returning back to Maui during adversity that sits home awaiting my return, although, I’m in no rush to get back to it. You have to have control over your life. Know when you’re saying no and mean it. Don’t let things get out of hand because you fail to be honest with yourself and others.

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5 Things That Promote a Strong Work Ethic

5 Things That Promote a Strong Work Ethic

When you run your own company, negative feedback can destroy everything you built. The resolution is to develop and maintain a strong work ethic. A strong work ethic stimulates you and your employees to face any challenges on coming, it will keep you at your soundest and keep you ahead of your competition.

1. Courage – This is actually the most important trait to have because without courage you will not be able to dedicate yourself to your work. You will not have the courage to be accountable for your wrong actions. Without courage, you can’t practice any other trait consistently because without courage you will stop when faced with greater challenges.

2. Professionalism – Being professional requires everything from how you dress, how you carry yourself amongst your employees and in front of your clients. How you speak to your clients on a day to day basis, whether they’re in the right or the wrong. Knowing what not to say is far greater than what you feel you think should say especially if it’s offensive. Display grace when under pressure. Hold your composure no matter how tight the deadline. Show you value people’s opinion or their professional contributions.

3. Accountability – You take personal responsibility for your actions and outcomes in every situation, and withdraw from making excuses when things don’t go as proposed. You acknowledge your mistakes and use them as learning experiences so you won’t make the same ones again. You also require your employees to meet the same high standards and hold those who accept responsibility instead of pointing blame.

4. Discipline – Live each day of your life with passion, emotionally engage with what you need to do for yourself and business. Focus entirely on what it is that you want for your business and make it become your main focal point, the center of attention of your heart’s priorities. Learn to say no to things outside of your own routines because it’s not your focal point.

5. Determination – You don’t ever give up on yourself no matter the challenge and you enthusiastically welcome challenges. You know that your goal as an entrepreneur is to solve your clients’ problems, and you resolve to continually seek better and more innovative answers. With purpose and resilience, you push ahead, no matter how far you have to go. No matter what it takes you do not quit.

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Vice Magazine says Power is an Escape Fantasy for People of Color

Vice Magazine says Power is an Escape Fantasy for People of Color

I was hindered today by a post from Vice magazine about power being an escape fantasy for people of color. I know this Starz drama has become the second most viewed premium cable show but that’s not just ratings consolidated just from people of color viewing Power. To say such a thing is a bit bigot in my point. I get it we love chicken but so does White America. In my opinion, Power is the truth behind the lives of people of color. For myself, I can say I have lived my life alongside Ghost on Power minus all the killing, but if I would have remained in such a toxic environment I’m sure it would have been possible to kill.

I have butchered the game in such a way that I was able to sell drugs, pay for schooling and get out the drug game tension free. People of color usually end up on the wrong side of the law due to lack of opportunity and financial circumstances that lead to lots of people of color taking matters into their own hands in order to provide a life for their families. White Americans can also relate to Power. I myself know several people like Tommy and Father Callahan who was just stabbed to his death by Dre on Episode 410 ‘You Can’t Fix This’.

Power isn’t a fictional show by any means. The show depicts exactly what’s on these mean streets. Sex, drugs, and lots of violence. This is a lifestyle that lots of Americans, whether black, white or Latino relate very well if they grew up under strain and hardships. Most men who don’t have their fathers in the household suffer from not having direction and tend to choose alternative ways to deal with the pain of not having much during their childhoods. Women fall for the drug dealer who saves them from the cold streets. So Tasha from Power is a girl from one of our neighborhoods.

Most men and women who struggle with the drug diversion want out before the two known guaranteed outings, which are death or jail. Jamie St. Patrick (Ghost) displays this within the show and how easy it is to be stuck in between the streets and the business office.

So to call Power a fantasy show people of the color watch would be bullshit. This show was written for people of all colors to display the harsh reality of hardships we encounter due to the pressure we’re faced with and the toxic environments we are raised under. So Vice if you want to write a story, write a story about what you could do to assist the people of color when their young and living in the inner city while most of white America grow up in the suburban areas.

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Title song Black America depicts Racism in America

A song that was written and recorded by me, Sharif Dyson who performed the song as BrownSkinFella, under my artist name. The recording conveys into the American people of this country and how inadequately the minorities were treated. The title song ‘Black America’ dives inside the lives of African Americans and Hispanics of this country. The recording addresses the cultures, to uplift both cultures through the music’s words and imagery. Racism supposedly ended years ago but it still exists. Now it’s within the corporate America and behind closed doors.

 

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What we talkin’ about? Real shit, or we talkin’ about rhymes?

What we talkin’ about? Real shit, or we talkin’ about rhymes?

What’s the beef about between Jay-Z and Kanye West? JAY Z says he has a legitimate grudge with the college dropout. Supposedly Kanye crossed the line by talking much shit about the 4:44 rap stars family during one of Kanye West rants broadcasted across the world. Jay says him and Kanye has had arguments in the past but  never crossed the boundaries between one another. Him and Kanyes friendship is no where near being repaired. It’s going to take a lot more than a sorry to repair things or this will turnout another JAY VS Dame fight. And being we saw Dames empire fall we kind of know who’ll win this war. Who will win the war between JAY-Z and Kan Yeezy?

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Black Women Reclaim Your Power

I recently read an article on www.theroot.com titled Jesse Williams, Jay-Z, Umar Johnson and the Allure of White Women written by Michael Harriot. My question to my sisters would be, Black Women, have you thrown in the sponge, thrown in the towel and given your power away? If you haven’t heard this idiocy statement by now, of a White woman being the prize for a Black Man, that’s good if it has not yet transformed you harshly.

For those allowing that comment to rob you of your mental strength, reclaim your power. This comment has affected a lot of Black Women, to where I’m seeing you, the Black Woman to feel inferior to the White Woman. This country has defined our people negatively for centuries and you are starting to believe this folly from a country who told you, we were worthless humans, C’mon. I’ve never believed that a white woman was a graduation present or a lifetime achievement award for me or any Black Man, that’s nothing but blather.

I can be honest and say I’ve found many shades of women attractive but never just because of the color of their skin. So many aspects have to fall into position when you’re looking at what’s attractive to you at that time and what’s happening in your life. For example, you could be going through a terrible breakup and the person that has hurt you has a big booty, long weaved hair, and pretty lips.

So what does your mind  tell you? That everything that looks like him/her is wicked and to stay plenty feet away from it. It’s all in our minds especially when it comes to dating. So if it’s a brother or a sister, we’ll look in the other direction for someone that doesn’t fit that description – they’ll hurt me – and bam! you fall into the arms of a White Man or White Woman easily.

Just think whenever you’ve been desperate you’ve found yourself in some really vulnerable situations, sometimes stuck like a rock in a harder place you started off originally. Black Women, I would like to articulate for most Black Men who’ve been in rancorous relationships with you. Black Men never left you because the White Woman had been a premium possession for the Black Man to gain. The notion that rich, prosperous leading Black Men eventually exchange Black Women for White Women is just anarchy. It’s not a valid statement by any means.

Success can be a very vulnerable and weak place for some. You’re not really sure who to esteem, especially when the people that you love the most are the very same ones giving you the most grief at the time of you dealing with the pressure from your success. You just want to run far away, but what actually happens to the once a strong Black Man, he then becomes a weakened Black Man that runs into the open arms of a remedial White Woman.

I’m only using the term White Woman because it happens to be the topic of my article but it can be a Yellow Woman who is there with open arms, who listens, makes him feel like everything he did was correct even if she knows he were wrong, but she just never judged him. How would you feel after? Exactly like this person is there for you, when in truth, really they’re there for themselves but you can’t possibly see that, cause it’s exactly what was needed for you at the time.

So to impute a group of skin color, I’d say you’re giving your power away. Honestly look at the situation and maybe there is something you could do or have done differently to help the success of your relationship. It could have been any shade of woman your man ran away with. If he’s successful, one of the reasons why it’s a White Woman, happens to be because they’re are so many more successful White Women than Black Women that drive themselves to be in the same areas as successful men, men of color and men who have no damn color. Successful Black Men adapt to their environments and the Becky’s are who happen to be closest by. Or, did you ever think, that perhaps your man just likes White Women? Nothing to be angry about but something to learn from.

Food for thought.

 

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Take the World but Give me Jesus

In the world alongside a generation that tells lies and says they’re truths, wear tattoos to proclaim loyalty and isolated the use of love to simply a quote, we should demand more than only the world now. We as a society of men are insufficient. We accept less from ourselves and that’s what we end receiving from others in the core of our circles. Look, the Bible says for what you give out will be given back to you.

So, start your damn day off with a hardcore workout, no mediocre bullshit that wouldn’t awe yourself let alone others. Write a 1700 word article not to just amuse others but to inspire and motivate for greatness. Luke 6:38 — For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.

So gents I say, you can take back all that the world has given me and leave me with Jesus and I’ll multiply what I formerly had solely with him as my head. We are creating a life upon legacy to be retained not a one night stand kind of life that you will forget by the fracture of the morning.

You remember that scene in Scarface where he looks up at the Goodyear blimp lit up with the words

“The World Is Yours”.

Run out into the world and blazon what’s already yours. We have so much more we can offer ourselves and others. Receiving only the world you are not asking for much and are limiting yourself. You don’t have to chase after something that is already yours. Follow the lord, allow him to lead you through to greatness and receive the world and then some.

 

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Make The Connection Vol. 02

I know a lot of you men are mislaid when it approaches to making the opening connection among you and the opposing sex. Buy why? Why are we of the stronger sex of the two sexes so weak to the expectations of what the female requires from us? I’ll tell you exactly why we’re so fucking weak. Incorrect information from other failed launch dickheads who taught and led us, when we were just young fucking boys with no sense of direction.

When we were just a diminutive dick with a patch of pubic hairs, a soft ass chin with a few hairs that made us think we’re grown ass men.

I can remember clear as day my brothers and their friends coaching me on talking to girls. Seriously, it was like a baby teaching another baby how to walk and they’re both 3 months of age, chaotic failure, nothing but stumbling and wounds. Immaturity is an age, a very young age but it’s an age that has not emerged. I’m not blaming my brothers understand this please, I know it’s the shit they learned from the men before their eyes who had no sense to teach nonsense.

Whether you watch other men mistreat women or handle a female with compassionate respect and regard you will begin to make a connection at an early age, on how to approach this connection with a woman from what you were exhibited. We are all relationship dumb before we gain an emotional intelligence with the proper and necessary tools to promote good behavior in ourselves in order to receive it from others.

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JAY-Z 4:44 Certified Platinum Plaque

Hov has done it repeatedly with his 13th album release making it platinum by the 5th day. JAY-Z is the only emcee this day and age that has 13 platinum records to floss on his hall wall. With faith and help on his side’s, he pulls it off. Great business tactics I must say. Am I saying he wouldn’t be able to pull it off without the help of a brilliant marketing team – that’s exactly what I’m saying. Hov is great but believes his encouraging of album sales through Samsung and Sprint has definitely benefited him greatly. He’s an endured well-thought businessman who knows how to make capital.

Men and women lie numbers don’t

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Boosie Badazz Took Offense to One of the Lyrics on Jay Z’s ‘4:44

Boosie Badazz Took Offense to One of the Lyrics on Jay Z’s ‘4:44

on 4:44‘s 2nd track, “The Story of O.J.” On the song, Jay brags about the type of money he has access to by mocking rappers who hold up money to their ear on Instagram. “Y’all on the ‘gram holdin’ money to your ear,” Jay raps on the song. “There’s a disconnect, we don’t call that money over here.

Boosie didn’t seem to appreciate or feel like adhering to the message. “I don’t know about y’all, but he doesn’t tell me what to do,” Boosie said on Instagram on Sunday. “In Louisiana, that’s just like a trend, shit won’t stop in Louisiana…Everybody don’t have bank accounts. Everybody don’t know about assets. Everybody don’t come up, everybody not business-minded like that.”

This clearly doesn’t help Boosie any. Boosie only makes JAYs point standout as truth. Time for the rappers in the south to get bank accounts and buy stock, southern rappers need to write more conscious raps. As I say the unknowing are the ungrowing.

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What Chipotle They Do This At?

Recently a friend of mine was on break for lunch and had a run in with two mutha fuckers dressed in beach wear at the local Chipotle in town. Just in case you’re wondering where exactly local is for my friend and this incident, he resides in Dallas, TX. 

In my days good ol decency was practiced. Back then stores had labels posted on their front doors that read, no shoes, no shirt no service. I guess nowadays what’s more important is the money for businesses and this era. Don’t let me catch you anywhere  looking like this. 

Make the Connection Vol. 01 Confidence

Confidence

/ˈkänfədəns/

a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.


Confidence! okay let’s get this shit lighted. It’s what makes you desiring to a woman when she first notices your ass believe or not. Guys it’s not your fucking car that you spend most of the day washing precisely so you don’t damage your paint. Then after washing, you take a clay bar to get all of the foul dirt that’s been embedded into your cars paint over the past few months of you driving it. Typically only you see and feel this way because it’s your car, no one else gives a damn about it, but you. Wait… I’m always getting off track but for real, read what I just said about your car and its paint is dirty, grimy and oily that only you can see. Gents that’s your confidence I’m talking about here. Self-assurance arises from your appreciation of your abilities and qualities.

So how do your car’s paint and confidence fall under the same umbrella? I’ll tell you how. You take pride in seeing your car shine, it glistens because of all the hard work you dedicate to it. Well, fellas, a woman loves to see a man shine and glisten from all the hard work he dedicates to himself to become some better version of himself. She wants the best model on the lot, if men were purchased like cars off lots, she craves the most desirable one our there. Don’t assume her to buy some piece of shit that doesn’t look good on the inside nor outside.

In 1988 Honda had a slogan that went “The Car That Sells Itself”. Your confidence needs to be able to sell you easily to a woman. She has to want to buy into your personality for one, so be yourself, you can only pull off being the best you. As far back as I can recall I’ve always been an original me. Whether that meant I was a scandalous mutha fucker that practiced no moral value, didn’t want to commit to a mere woman, trust that they knew about it, felt it and respected it even though they didn’t like my intoxicating reality they lived with it because it was naturally who I was at that stage in my life. You never realize how many women are open to friends with benefits until you’re uprightly upfront.

Hear me out, I’m not suggesting you become a piece of shit nigga that just doesn’t care about a woman’s feelings either. What I am suggesting, is that whatever it is that you’re going to be, be just that minus the lies, fakeness and bullshit aura you’re putting out. The woman you’re interested in wants to get to know the true you, not your representative you introduce her to and within the next few months into the relationship you’re a lazy son of a bitch that practices how to change channels and watch her pay the household bills. Again, I understand times are hard but if times are that hard fellas you should not be dating because you can not equally share in the maintenance of building the relationship.

Be still tons to come.

Why does President Trump Grope Ivanka Trump

When we proposed the question to the Quora public we had some very interesting answers but one stuck out from the bunch the most by starting their answer off with,

“not gonna be nice as the other answers, It needs to be said”

Many have seen the way Trump puts his hands all over his daughter in public, it is repulsive and disgusting. We have also seen her push him away. We saw Tiffany push him away, too. We have seen the lap photos and heard how he would like to ‘date’ Ivanka. What kind of pervert does that? No, it is not healthy. And not once have I ever felt this way about any political figure before. No R or D that I have seen ever behaved this way with their own daughter.

 Trump’s behavior follows a pattern of men who commit sexual abuses. Still, to this day, I cannot understand how anyone lowered themselves to vote for a man who is handsy with his daughter and a known crotch grabber who cheated on all three wives. Do not get me started on the evangelicals and their support for Trump here! It is beyond disgusting how Trump shows the world that Ivanka belongs to him. IHMO, he is very sick in any way and his behavior toward his daughter should cause everyone to see red flags.

– Colorado Carol, former Postmaster/HR manager Retired

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Then on the flip-side we have

Lou Weitzel answer:

She is one of his daughters’ and he has tremendous love, respect, and pride for her. He loves beautiful smart women and lets her know she is one. He thinks a lot of her opinions and advice. People with filth in their hearts and minds or those with bad experiences look at the world that way, you know, the people who steal, think everyone’s a thief, people who lie, think everyone lies, etc.


There’s always two sides to a story and we bring you both sides on SPLURJJ.

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Petya Virus Vs. Ransom Virus

Computer users worldwide be frightened by the new computer virus Petya, that was reported supposedly to be as dangerous as ransomware. Ransomware defined to be a kind of malice software to block access of a user’s computer system until a sum of money is paid. Petya is a total different threat of harm. It actually was created to block a user’s access to their computer then wipe the system completely without any account of restoration. This software was created to to be a wiper and not actual ransomware. 

If it’s not working out ride off?

Yes… giving up on something or someone is so much smoother than standing up to it, facing the pain that comes with it, and exit stage left cause it got too damn hard for you. You only gain a reward from toughing it out, with that something or someone for the term of the course associated with it.

We are responsive to leave situations once we sense that someone or something is tugging us in the direction we really don’t agree to. When we make an arrangement with ourselves we have committed to an agreement. You have yet to realize that theirs distress no matter which route you turn.

Life is very hard but compared to what, some may ask. Ask yourself this question, right before you’re about to quit. Did you absolutely solidly, invest all you had from your gut? If no, hold on, nobody moves nobody gets hurt. Try a different approach to it, you still have so much more fight in you to make a success out of the situation.

She Prefers You To Be Upfront

Fellas, I’d like to take a second today and pinpoint what most women expect from you as a man. She prefers you to be upfront and truthful early on, you don’t want problems in the very beginning when you’re getting to know her, besides it’s that vital time of learning new great things about each other.

There will come a time for problems, every great relationship has them, hence avoid conflict at the very start because it is possible to avoid these careless problems plus it’s not beneficial to the remainder of your time spent together, it actually leaves her bitter and you with a bad taste.

When you’re just getting to know her she wants you to be upfront with her, on exactly what you want, willing to offer her and what you will not accept, men likewise have deal breakers. When you pinpoint what you’re bringing to the table she has a very precise understanding where she stands with you, which will leave her the choice, her sole decision to decide if moving ahead with you is going to be in her highest favor.

To be honest with you fellas, us gents being upfront with women in the beginning actually helps us out, honesty is the policy so no doom is done early on, trust she will respect your brutal honesty and find you ever more amazingly attractive because your decision has the two of you in mind. If you’re dating others at that time let her know that you are dating other people and not just her, let her know you want to leave your options open and you’re not trying to rush into a full fledge relationship instantly.

Taking your time isn’t the problem, It’s still wanting to engage in random sexual activities with her receive all the bells and whistles of her body based on your lies. Fellas, she thinks different she gives her body to us, hoping we will protect it, the most attractive thing about a man is his honesty is what I’ve heard,  I didn’t make these rules fellas I’m just a man who’s misused the rules a few times and have learned through trial and error.

Being upfront with a woman, in the beginning, sets the standard for the relationship which sets the mood for that relationship later on. See if you start off on the right foot with any relationship whether it being a business relationship, dating, any type of relationship if it’s start off the right way there’s no way you can go wrong. Take it from me I’ve learned my lesson through all the years of dating that if you lie in the beginning you are going to be faced with that same lie in the end.

Pay attention to her! When a woman is “tripping” she cares. When a woman is “mad” she believed in you and you let her down. When she’s “asking questions” she is trying to gain clarity. When she’s quiet and letting things “slide” she is giving up. And when she’s not doing any of the above just know you lost a good woman. So fellas, be upfront with her, she prefers you to be upfront.

Take The Life Boat

Ever found yourself being that someone who complains, stresses about everything finds no light in the good in their life. Well, that was me about 10 years ago until I decided to jump ship and take the lifeboat over the huge cruise ship that came with so many distractions. With the lifeboat, I needed to work twice as hard but in the end all of the work I invested, my results were substantially greater. It had made a major impact on my life and how I even see myself in the mirror. Your reflection of yourself is important, so be sure you do your greatest daily.

There are people who do not see your vision and you need to know that’s okay. What’s not okay is believing what they tell you about your vision. As entrepreneur men and women we all have to protect our vision. Stay away from the distractions – whether it’s hanging out with the wrong friends and or family, beautiful women, men, no matter whom, what or who’s with you, you have to learn to not blame and take full responsibility this is your life, your dream and you’re in control. 

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by Sharif Dyson

What makes a man attractive to women?

This is a topic that can be ongoing come weeks later. Here’s what one viewer had to say on the topic, What makes a man attractive to women?

Take notes gentleman.

I see a lot of people here who write answers about very superficial qualities that attract women.

What really attracts women on a deeper level is a man’s personality and certain character traits that he embodies.

Even though some women may find looks, money, status, intellect, fame, talent, success, good pedigree, fitness and so on attractive – neither of those things are a must when it comes to being successful with women. All these things are just bonuses, nothing more!

Here are the character traits that the vast majority of women find overwhelmingly attractive. Credit for a big part of this list goes to Reddit user RedPillDad:

1.Confidence – cocky to the point of brazen (versus meek uncertainty and insecurity).

2.Directness and Decisiveness – say what’s on your mind and clarity about what you want (versus waffling and meekly tiptoeing around).

3.Dominance – command respect with social, intellectual, emotional and physical power (versus putting her on a pedestal and acting subservient).

4.Indifference – remain aloof, less reactive and not concerned about what others say and think (versus being an overly-attentive “try-hard”).

5.Entitlement – feel unconstrained to take/demand what you want(versus feeling unworthy).

6.Exciting – take risks, seek adventure and lead a more interesting life (versus seeking comfort and security).

7.Freedom and Selfishness – rebel’s attitude, say and do what you want, uninhibited and self-focused (versus conforming and attending to others)

8.Leadership – lead yourself/others to reach goals (versus passiveness and uninspired).

9.Masculine – exude a rugged, controlled mannerism (versus a soft, caring feminine energy).

10.Menacing – disagreeable, dangerous vibe (versus friendly and harmless)

11.Mysterious and Unpredictable – contrasting qualities that stimulate curiosity (versus boring and predictable).

12.Teasing – playfully disrespect her, intentionally ruffling her feathers (provoking her instead of trying to put her at ease).

13.Humor – Women will most often choose the man who made them laugh over the drop dead sexy one. Women want a guy who values what a good laugh can do for your body and soul. Women truly appreciate men who can make them laugh and laugh at themselves too.

14.Ambition – Women passionately respect guys who aim for the better things in life, who aren’t stagnant and stuck in their comfort zone. Who have goals and strive to achieve something greater than mediocrity. The fact that you will work hard to get what you want and help those close to you do the same thing.

15.Self-Reliance – Knowing that you can deal with any problem that comes your way. Not running away from your problems.

16.Passion – Have you ever listened to someone speak passionately about something and you became totally unaware of what was going on around you, lost track of time, and became absorbed by their presence? Passionate guys drive women crazy, in a good way.

While there are some other minor traits, these are the main ones that women find irresistible.

So if a man wants to be successful with women – he has to work on developing these traits.

A guy who has developed many or all of these character traits will always be extremely attractive to women, no matter what else he has going on in his life.

If you found this useful and want solid dating advice that teaches you to develop and incorporate these character traits, check out my profile or follow me on Quora.

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What is New York Style Pizza?

I’ve come to the conclusion there is no such thing as NY style pizza anywhere except for in New York. You will not find New York style pizza outside of NY area, it’s all about the warder (water). I’ve found a few places outside of the city that come close to our slices but no one can recreate cause they just don’t have the flavor, its the warder in the dough and the warder in the sauce. The folks that make the best pizza in the city are the Sicilians and the Greeks. Yes, the Greeks make a great pie as well. What makes a real

“NY Style Pizza Slice”

Ingredients:

First off got to have the water, then comes the sawce (sauce), the sawce is the magic and to bring the magic out you need the real mozzarella cheese, which seems to be the trick to it all. A stringy, hot, mouth watering cheese that almost get’s caught in your throat makes sense. Without it you have nothing. You can forget about scavenging around city to city to find a slice like ours.

Closing:

If you’re looking for real pizza, you need to head to New York.
Seriously, before you lies a long road of disgust and broken promises.  Everyone will tell you, “Oh, decent New York pizza in other cities can be found at _____ .”  They’re lying to you. Don’t believe the hype. It’s just not possible unless the warder is being shipped in, the mozzarella cheese is stringy and the dough and sawce (sauce) come from Sicily.

Locations to try in other cities:

Pino’s Pizza at 139 W Thomas Rd, Phoenix, AZ 85013 It is a pretty decent slice. Honestly one of the “D” closest pies you’ll find anywhere. May I announce Pino’s owner is Sicilian. 😉

 

Serving the hands down best pizza in New York City, Brooklyn and the Bronx. 2 Bros Pizza located at

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601 6th Ave
New York, NY 10011

 

 

 

Why are there so many men unhappily married?

There could be a number of ways to answer this question, but I think that the bottom line is this: most people sort of expect happiness in marriage to just “happen” or to “work out”, but they don’t realize that they need to work hard on it. Hence, they don’t do what it takes to make a marriage successful. – Anna Laureano

Splurjj: When I pose this question on Quora I just knew so many men would agree on why they were unhappily married but I was totally mistaken. I received answers to this question from life practitioners, lawyers, marriage counselors and men and women in marriages themselves. The answers are abroad and some very honest about their own unhappy marriage lives. Just like the following answer, that some may or may not relate to.

My answer is personal to my situation, of course, but maybe others can relate:

  • My wife doesn’t need me, and I know it. She makes way more money than I do. I could just as easily not work, and we would be fine. The most critical thing I do in our relationship is drive the kids to the places they need to be every day. Men need to feel needed, and as more and more men become second incomes to their wives (like me), that part of the necessity of a husband as breadwinner erodes.
  • Constant reminders of the types of wives we don’t have. I’m not just talking about physical appearance here, but also attitudes. Everywhere I look, I see wives who seem eager to please their husbands. But then I get home to my wife, and she doesn’t seem to care if I’m happy or not. She considers it a favor to me if she ignores me for the night, instead of her usual criticizing me all night.
  • Boredom. The last significant change in my life was three years ago, with the birth of our third and final child. Think about that… three whole years of pretty much the same thing every single day. I’ve been with my wife for 15 years. Fifteen years of “exploring the same territory”, so to speak, and you’ve pretty much seen it all and aren’t excited by it anymore.
  • The sense of obligation destroys the romance. Children, a mortgage, retirement plans, my career, etc… There is very little I do every day that isn’t out of some since of obligation or responsibility. There’s a very small time each day – about 30 minutes right before bed – where the kids are asleep, the chores are done, the dog has been walked, and I have nothing that I am obligated to do for the rest of that day. That’s the dangerous time for me. The time when I start to think about how unhappy I am in my marriage, and then I realize how stuck I am, and how this is my life now. – Anonymous

For some or even many of the same reasons women are unhappy in their marriage. More than likely, the relationship has simply run its course. Many of us live well into our 80s now, and we go through too many fundamental changes to make staying with the same partner feasible. Because people grow in different directions.

Some of my male friends have cited lack of sex in the marriage as a reason for their unhappiness—as in, a complete and total absence of it. One male friend described his utility in his former marriage as a “walking, breathing ATM machine.” He was useful only as a money provider for the household. Some marriages become completely child-centrism, and only exist because of the presence of offspring.

Bottom line, though? Men, and people, are in unhappy marriages because they choose to stay in them out of obligation. Even though, according to a recent Pew report, some 70 percent of Americans do not believe that divorce is a moral failing. “Real men” don’t run away from unhappiness; they are expected to just suck it up, lest they be labeled “cowards” or “whiners”.

Because a small segment of society says they must. – Melissa Myer, Author of letters for signature by important men

Splurjj: I found the following answer simple but true.

As long as delusions rule our lives — such as ignorance, desire and aversion — we are unhappy. When being alone, we want to find a partner. Having a partner, we want to be alone. Desire and aversion push us, ignorance doesn’t let us see what happens. – Alex Zendo, Buddhist teacher, life practitioner

M.Anand, says: For the simple reason

“NO LOVE”

Unfortunately it’s the ‘companionship out of bindings & obligations’ which is holding the marriage rather than what it should really be ‘Love’. In most of the marriages, after initial attraction of probing, curiosity about spouse is over after the honeymoon, thus limiting the sacred relationship to only physical ‘bodily’ level and not connecting to higher levels of emotions at heart.

In the first place, can love be made to happen between husband & wife or is it that Love just happens? It’s the genuine caring, concern for each other, longing to be with each other, connecting at soul level, sharing ones intimate thoughts, respecting each other, which over a period of time develops into Love. Most of the marriages are devoid of these and hence many are unhappy. It’s not just the men who are unhappy in their marriages but women also equally are unhappy. It’s just that men are more vocal about it and women suffer silently blaming on their karma.

If following factors are holding the marriage, rather than Love, it’s evident, unhappiness has to rule.

-If I divorce, what people/society will say!!

-Now that children are growing, what’s the point to mess the marriage!

-Who will take care of my elderly parents at home!

-how will I find financial security (for women)?

-Now that I am above forty, let’s compromise & live!

If one analyzes the root cause of any unhappy marriage, it has to be only and only the three letter word ‘EGO’. But then that’s the human psyche about which nothing can be done unless as Jidda Krishnamurti says ‘One needs to understand oneself first in terms of why one thinks/ acts the way he does’ and then only one will be able to understand the other.

Is that true?
Evidence show that the happiest people are married men, second; single women, third are the single guys and forth, yes, in the bottom you find married women.
But unhappiness in marriage in general starts with disconnect, from self and the other. That brings bad communication and then it is down from there. – Galitta Tassa, Voice artist, Sound Healer and Guide, Founder of Happy Goddess

Partha Sadhukhan, Expert in marriage issues.

Worldwide divorce laws are anti male. So on divorce men lose their children, money, property etc and hence they don’t want divorce and carry on unhappy marriages.

A marriage can sustain only on mutual sacrifice and not on demands. Since our lives are becoming more stressful and demanding from each partner for their sustenance people are generally getting averse to marriages. In a married relationship it is more likely to point to the partner.

In Indian context as we see, women’s responsibilities are not defined but their rights are more than defined. That creates more problem as women try to take upper hand in relations without any contribution. That is why men are unhappy but have no option but to stick to their marriages.

If women are happy at all, (as some have pointed out) that is because they don’t know where to stop their demands. When everything is given to them without asking anything in return they are set to be more demanding and all responsibilities will come to men. Eventually making men unhappy.

Splurjj: The following question I received back was a bit more interesting and happens to be a true story of a married couple that struggles with companionship, blame and control. Which tends to be the number one blame in most marriages. A man or woman being too obsessed with control.

I know a wife who’s unhappy. He husband is killing himself holding a high powered job to support the family, and she’s mad that on weekends he’s like burnt toast. She wanted more kids than he does and also likes to spend money. She complained that he’s boring so he decided to take flying lessons and so now she complains about him doing something away from the family. She complains he doesn’t do sweet things for her, but when he does she thinks it’s manipulation. She’s totally bored but doesn’t go make her own activities. They’ve agreed on parenting strategies but she doesn’t enforce them, so now the kids are a discipline nightmare causing massive stress and mutual blame.

I’m not blaming this wife or husband, but using them as an extreme example of what trends to happen. Our expectations are often unrealistic and uncontrolled as to which of the mutually incompatible outcomes we want. We also tend to be ignorant of these self dynamics and blame something external such as the spouse or marriage. We tend to think marriage helps provide an escape from the human condition, whereas it tends to be an amplifier of certain aspects. Many bad habits develop in marriage that would not be acceptable to use on someone else. Nobody can have realistic expectations about marriage or raising a family since you just don’t know.

There’s a saying that intention is karma and expectations are suffering. If a couple doesn’t keep an eye on the true North of having a strong relationship, then the unmet expectations and daily grind can take over. If a couple don’t actively focus on maintaining love or togetherness, then natural decay can destroy. If the problems of being human aren’t actively acknowledged, then blame games rip things apart. If mutually agreed strategies are not respected, then the whole doesn’t function.

In my case, the husband is happy, because of a decision to support the wife even when she lashes out, because i can understand the deep causes. He’s not expecting to be happy, and so he is. This couple has invested in relationship. yearly we get away on vacations without kids, mini honeymoons, so we can remember ourselves as a couple, not just a family caught in a grinder of feeding little mouths and paying for college.

Are divorced people more happy in divorce our did they just reconcile with themselves because there’s nothing and nobody to blame? If the relationship were maintained, would it have decayed? Are remarriages happier? I’m sure sometimes divorce is a good strategy for situation. We’re all half crazy and the wrong kind of crazy don’t mix well. But does divorce solve the underlying problem?

Anonymous

Simple: they don’t understand discipline, duty and being true to the fundamental values of human nature, all of which is in the bible, and which is the cornerstone of happiness. What must be ignored in all this is basal urges, temptations and immediate gratification, the ego, the MOI: because an action FEELS good doesn’t mean it has value, unless it’s in the context of bettering yourself and your wife in your relationship, a relationship of family, raising children (whether or not your own), community, and finding common values with your neighbors, being responsible for a nation. As Dr. Laura once said, when asked “Where do I find my true love?”; “It’s the one you end up with.” IE, you gotta HANG IN THERE AND WORK THROUGH THINGS, not cut and run when things aren’t going the way YOU want.

Why am I so smart? I walked from two beautiful ladies, after exchanging vows. My poor excuse: no children involved. Could I have worked things through? Yes, it would have been very tough, I think could have done so had I made the effort. – Philip Clock

Splurjj: I’d like to thank everyone for contributing , wisdom, stats and mere honesty to make such a great topic on, why are there so many men unhappily married?

Subsequent to understanding this article, you’ll see that it simply isn’t just us men who are miserable. Ladies are miserable noiselessly while men are a great deal more verbal and stand up boisterous to change the circumstance. A lady will wretchedly stay in an unevenly yolked marriage that crushes her over the long haul, which she then censures her better half for. We as a whole need to find what it is precisely that we need in our lives. On the off chance that it’s not marriage stand up emphatically and inquire as to whether it’s not what you want. Wretchedness will frame and you will kick the bucket since you are not becoming profoundly inside. Discovering intimate romance is vital, so don’t squander your time or another person time unless you genuinely anticipate advancing the push to change the circumstances to better the situation. – Splurjj

 

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